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Assalamualaikum. Undeniably, having friends around in some of the times could be a pain in the S. Yeah, we may be friend with him or her sincerely, but who knows what's in his / her mind? Well, not to be pessimistic here. There ARE good friends too that are still existing out there. Yet, they're too good that - urmmm, huh - they seemingly try to pamper us all the time. Thus, the outcome will actually be the same ---> we not being ourselves as we usually do.
Most of the people may disagree with this on one side. But then, try & look at the whole point from the other side. As for me :
If you're going to do something good, then your friends meddle in the way, that's bullshit.
If you're going to change for your own good, then your friends suddenly come in & say something like "Hey, that's sooooooo not you," that's bullshit.
If you're going to do something but then you'll have to wait for your friend, but when it comes to him / her, he / she can't even wait for a second, that's bullshit. That's also another way of you not being yourself, as you might want to get off instead of waiting (yeah, who loves waiting?) but then for THE SAKE OF FRIEND, you'll have to tolerate.
If you're contacting your friends but your friends hardly remember you in most cases, that's bullshit. If not because of you being my friend, I wouldn't contact you in the first place, right? Okay, another point for not being yourself. Not sure if you get it or not.
When you're interested in doing something, trying something new, but your friends are not giving that support, that's bullshit.
When you're seeking peace from a problem to your friends & they're giving you unhelpful advises & lectures, that's bullshit. Like "Hey, you're not in my shoe. You don't know what I'm totally going through. Instead of crapping around, why don't you shut up & just listen to me babbling to you? Do give advice when I asked for one, instead."
When your friends are stuck with their bad attitude after all those advises, but they condemn you for stuck with yours instead, that's bullshit.
When you treat your friends unequally but they complain, yet they can treat other friends in the clique with that biased way they've always complained at you about, that's bullshit.
When you're reliable enough to keep your friends' secrets, but they're being such a big mouth, that's bullshit too.
Hurmm, that's it, I think. All the points probably seem irrational, but it does make sense if one is to think about it thoroughly. To think about it, having such friends mentioned above are more painful compared to having none, & that is not called as friendship, it's friendSHIT. Assalamualaikum.
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