Please, Do Assure Me.

Assalamualaikum.

Do you think only girls need to be assured

when it comes to relationship (s)?

Okay the term "relationship" here

is used generally

so it doesn't count whether one is married or not.

BTW

referring to the question just now

The answer should be

"Hell no."

Guys need it too.

Probably girls need to be assured

so that they'll be able to differentiate

between a guy & a jerk

successfully

It's the same case for guys as well

We need to be assured 

so that we are able to categorize 

a girl & a bitch

distinctively.

The significance of doing so is undeniable

especially when one is getting serious

in a relationship.

Yeah, who wants to play around in a relationship, anyway

Oh, exceptions for jerks & bitches

For couples that are yet to get married

the seriousness is essential

so that both can commit to 

setting up a marriage together

yeah, you know that, it's general though.

Even in marriage

Although it may seem to be serious all the time

Muka nak tension je. Cubalah senyum sikit XD

In fact, eventually

there's a time where both husband & wife

will start getting serious in living a life together

and it depends on the couple themselves

on when they should start doing so

It could be as early as after the honeymoon ends

or as late as the lovey-dovey feeling's not there any more

Hurmm, hopefully the lovey-dovey feeling 

will stay till the end

but in reality, most of the feeling will vanish by itself

when life's attempting to bite harder than before

and no efforts being done to replenish the love. 

Okay we're being derailed here, sorry XD

Back to the topic, 

girls are assured with guys

if guys are serious enough to make a plan

future plan of what'll happen

with the relationship

(it's quite clear though ---> MARRIAGE

or LIVING A LIFE TOGETHER

for married couples)

to give effort to achieve it

is highly regarded

and MOST IMPORTANTLY

not considering them as "just another option"

Yeah, guys are hunters,

the ferocious of predators, I must say

with the ability to seek & to choose

instead of waiting (for the girls, please don't be offended.

Hey, even girls nowadays seek & choose their own mate.

Dontcha ever heard of "perigi cari timba" huh? =.=)

they've a wider range of "choosing what's best"

if they intend to manipulate the ability abusively

yet then, I do agree

that guys tend to keep on searching

what's right for them

and they won't stop till they've found the right one.

Nevertheless

why don't they stop looking around for awhile

and learn to appreciate whatever they've obtained?

"Kau dah penat penat tackle awek tu

last last kau tinggalkan dia. Tak baik lah macam tu bro"

Think this hard before you start looking for others, willya?

For the guys 

yes, guys too

are assured

when girls are hand-in-hand

helping them to walk the plan

instead of just talking about it

and leaving the burden to the guy alone.

Admittedly,

the responsibility's more on the guys

but wouldn't it be delightful than ever

to see our beloved ones to lend a hand

& joined forces?

Surely it would.

Unless the guy's being "gentleman" enough

to take everything for himself

which is somehow rather

violates the early concept of 

relationship

that stresses mutualism & teamwork

from both parties.

Agreed enough? :)

Besides,

not considering the guy as "just some other choice"

too is crucial okay?

With the ability to choose whoever suits

to be the mate,

girls turned out to be unpredictable

and highly dangerous

because in any time possible

Miss C could just dump Mr A away

and choose Mr B instead 

probably for Mr B's look or wealth or whatsoever

offered by Mr B 

as a bait from a predator to its prey

without even considering Mr A

who probably turned out to be the good guy.

Okay. Do note that this is just an example. 

Conclusions?

Try to make your own girl / guy feels assured.

At least, he or she wouldn't feel

insecure

of engaging in a relationship with you

Probably that's it. Assalamualaikum.
-Just another point of view-

P/S: I need to be assured too T.T Waiting for years doesn't seem to worth it if you're not giving your word. Sobs